Friday, September 27, 2013

to my favourite boy =) I've waited all my life to cross this line to the only thing thats true, so I will not hide its time to try, anything to be with you

True – Ryan Cabrera

I won’t talk
I won’t breathe
I won’t move till you finally see
that you belong with me
you might think
I don’t look
but deep inside in the corner of my mind
I’m attached to you
mmmm
I’m weak
it’s true
cause I’m afraid to know the answer
do you want me too?
cause my heart keeps falling faster
[chorus]
I’ve waited all my life to cross this line
to the only thing thats true
so I will not hide
i’ts time to try anything to be with you
all my life I’ve waited
this is true
you don’t know
what you do
everytime you walk into the room
I’m afraid to move
I’m weak
it’s true
I’m just scared to know the ending
do you see me too?
do you even know you meant me!
[Chorus]
I’ve waited all my life to cross this line
to the only thing thats true
so I will not hide
its time to try anything to be with you
all my life I’ve waited
this is true
I know when I go
I’ll be on my way to you
the way that’s true
[chorus]
I’ve waited all my life to cross this line
to the only thing thats true
so I will not hide
its time to try anything to be with you
all my life I’ve waited
this is true

Tuesday, September 17, 2013

Love is unconditional when it endures despite unfavorable circumstances

Saw this article:

Think of love as an action, not a feeling. A feeling is something we get from someone, and when we stop getting it, we often change our behavior somehow. If we have to do something, or be a certain way, in order to receive love, that love is conditional. Instead, if you start thinking of love as the behavior itself, the reward becomes the feeling you get when you act a certain way, not when someone else acts a certain way. And you can continue acting this way all the time, regardless of how other people behave--it becomes an act of generosity. As Stephanie Dowrick says, "love is not love except when it is generous." Feelings can not last, but you can renew them continuously with new actions.


Always ask yourself, what is the most loving thing I can do for this particular person in this particular moment? Love isn't really one size fits all; what might be a loving act toward one person could be harmful to another person, in that it doesn't help them get closer to becoming a truly happy human being. Unconditional love is a new decision you need to make in every situation, not a hard and fast rule you can apply to everyone all the time.


Remember that love doesn't mean making sure someone is always comfortable. If you believe loving someone is about fostering their growth, most people acknowledge that pain and discomfort are part of growth, and if you shield someone from all pain or discomfort, you are not loving them. So, don't confuse loving someone with blindly making them comfortable, satisfying their desires, and shielding them from any kind of pain. If you do, you are only making it difficult for them to grow as human beings.


Consider that if love is unconditional, it is given to everyone freely, including yourself. Another reason the previous step is important is because if you don't follow it, you're well on your way to becoming a people pleaser, which means you are not being unconditionally loving to yourself. Instead, recognize the times when doing what is best for you will occasionally have you out of sync with another - Maryanne Radmacher calls this understanding "the difference between tolerance and allowing mediocrity a plot in your garden."


Forgive. Even if someone doesn't apologize, it's inherently loving to both them and yourself to let go of your anger and resentment toward them. Keep in mind Piero Ferrucci's advice that forgiving "is not something we do, but something we are."Again, don't mistake being willing to forgive for letting people walk all over you. How you act (lovingly) toward the person will vary, but your ability to practice unconditional love will be clouded if you hold on to negative feelings.


Allow yourself to reap the benefits. If you've ever had a moment when you practiced unconditional love, whether spontaneously or deliberately, you probably felt energized and liberated, not drained and burdened. The more often you feel the the former after acting a certain way, the more you're loving unconditionally.




Tips



  • Love means wishing others to be happy. Love is about what we give not what we get.
  • Practice doing something for someone each day with love alone. Do it without expecting anything in return. Do it without anyone knowing it. For example, you can pray for your friends or family members who live far away. You can send email, text, or a letter to someone whom you have not been in touch with for quite a while. Give compliments to other people. You can give a smile to a stranger passing by. You can pet your dog or cat. Do small things with great love each day. And watch your heart expand to more love.
  • Many people feel a sweep of unconditional love upon the birth of a child. That's not to say everyone does or should, or that you can't feel it otherwise. It just may be a useful way for some people to remember what unconditional love is supposed to feel like.
  • Be nice and show love to toxic people. Being kind will pay off one day for both parties.